How to hold on while letting go

Sometimes we lose people in our lives through death, through distance, miscommunication or whatever it may be.
It’s really difficult when you want to hold on so tight, but need to let go.
Today is a lesson in holding on,  while letting go.

Remember the good times.
It’s no point tarnishing an experience by focusing on the things that give rise to negative energy.  We need to hold on to the things that made us smile, the moments that took our breath away, the times when we thought it would last forever, and while holding on to these, we need to learn to let go.

Letting go is never easy. It takes effort to release the familiar but we have to know that there is another experience waiting. How do you let go of someone or something whose been taken from you? A child, through divorce, separation, relationship breakdown, death, distance, family, home,  How does one do it all? A mother, a father whom one has known all their life. A sister, a brother,  a mentor, a friend.

How do you let go of losing all that you’ve created from scratch through a fire, foreclosure or whatever it may be. You hold on to what joy it brought, but you let go of the pain because you know whatever you created once can be done again. 

This life gives us both joy and pain. They say there can’t be any sunshine without the rain. Yes we are human beings so off course we will hurt and feel pain.

How do we move on?
Step by step, day by day, it gets easier. You remember the good times,  you cherish and honour the memories. You make every day count while they are part of your life. You treasure them and take nothing for granted.  For when they part, there can be no ‘ifs and whys’.

Go into every experience whole heartedly.  Hold nothing back. Show love everyday. Don’t miss a moment to say and show how you feel. In times of need, these moments will pull you through the darkest of nights and the extremely long days of pain.

Never harden your heart. Never be scared to give everything your all. Don’t live in fear of what if. Go all the way. Make your memories,  create your laughter and dream big dreams.

Life gives, life takes, the cycle continues. Make memories that nothing can break. Sometimes we have to let go in the middle of holding on. Life goes on.

Keep growing, keep loving, keep building. It gets better.

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Missing you

I miss you A LOT.
iLoveYou more.
Tonight it feels like I am missing a part of me. Excited to do what I’m doing but sometimes feel so empty.
How the heck is this going to get easier.
I feel sad, because I remember the pain I saw in your eyes before I left, and though I was already missing you before I left you, I neededbto be brave so I wouldn’t break down.
Maybe I am more emotional because I am very tired. My insomnia is bad and I barely sleep but a few hours.
I don’t know how best to explain this feeling, bursting from inside. I didn’t think I could love you more. Even when I am a moody cow, you put up with it all. I guess that’s what make us work. Me being so serious and you a comedian, but you know you catch a glimpse of crazy now and then. So I guess I deviated to ease my pain, then again It’s my thoughts my feelings, there’s no right or wrong. So what I was saying is that I really miss you, I absolutely adore you and I wish I was home. I hate feeling so lost without you. I miss your naked body next to mine as I drift off. I hate not finding you in the middle of the night.
I am counting the days till I am home.
iLoveYou Sunshine and grateful for every little wonder. Every moment that makes me, make you. Keep my side warm…