How to hold on while letting go

Sometimes we lose people in our lives through death, through distance, miscommunication or whatever it may be.
It’s really difficult when you want to hold on so tight, but need to let go.
Today is a lesson in holding on,  while letting go.

Remember the good times.
It’s no point tarnishing an experience by focusing on the things that give rise to negative energy.  We need to hold on to the things that made us smile, the moments that took our breath away, the times when we thought it would last forever, and while holding on to these, we need to learn to let go.

Letting go is never easy. It takes effort to release the familiar but we have to know that there is another experience waiting. How do you let go of someone or something whose been taken from you? A child, through divorce, separation, relationship breakdown, death, distance, family, home,  How does one do it all? A mother, a father whom one has known all their life. A sister, a brother,  a mentor, a friend.

How do you let go of losing all that you’ve created from scratch through a fire, foreclosure or whatever it may be. You hold on to what joy it brought, but you let go of the pain because you know whatever you created once can be done again. 

This life gives us both joy and pain. They say there can’t be any sunshine without the rain. Yes we are human beings so off course we will hurt and feel pain.

How do we move on?
Step by step, day by day, it gets easier. You remember the good times,  you cherish and honour the memories. You make every day count while they are part of your life. You treasure them and take nothing for granted.  For when they part, there can be no ‘ifs and whys’.

Go into every experience whole heartedly.  Hold nothing back. Show love everyday. Don’t miss a moment to say and show how you feel. In times of need, these moments will pull you through the darkest of nights and the extremely long days of pain.

Never harden your heart. Never be scared to give everything your all. Don’t live in fear of what if. Go all the way. Make your memories,  create your laughter and dream big dreams.

Life gives, life takes, the cycle continues. Make memories that nothing can break. Sometimes we have to let go in the middle of holding on. Life goes on.

Keep growing, keep loving, keep building. It gets better.

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You woke up weeping

You woke up and you were weeping

I Couldn’t understand why all this pain in your eyes

Then I looked and saw you bleeding

The life you came to love so much

And the pain was aflooding.

You woke up and you were weeping

For the little fingers you would never hold

For the amazing stories that would remain untold

The face you pictured in your mind was no more
A bond so prematurely broken.

You woke up and you were weeping
For the part of you that would be no more
For the flesh of your flesh and the bones of your bones
Dissolved into nothingness.

You rock back and forth in agony, so broken so defeated.
You woke up and you were weeping
For the innocent eyes that would never smile
For the little voice in a demanding cry
You wept, you slept, you lost your beautiful child.